The connection or feeling many mention can only be reached if the heart and soul are open. It is real and is not some fire and brimstone hitting you on your head. It’s one human being feeling close to another and not just sexual.
I find that connection with many but I will say it is not instant gratification. If you never allow yourself to get close then you won’t and if you try to make it happen it’s a lost cause.
Peeling back our emotions and letting nature take it’s course is not natural in this skeptic ridden relationship. The nature of the beast is to drink as much from the cup as you can even if your gulping it down without enjoying all the flavor.
Don’t be to quick to judge and remember, this women who gives you pleasure may touch you in many ways you didn’t bargain for.